Hi Lyn, it does sound like you are really trying your hardest with what you know. And I am very sorry but I don't know the technical side of what is happening in your brain to give you these frozen feelings.
What do you do that gives you any relief, is there a song or a poem or simply closing your eyes when you are sitting and imagining something which gives you relief?
Do you have anyone to talk to on a regular basis? Or do you write these feelings out?
I did write a poem not so long ago in regards to how I saw early recovery.
EYES WIDE OPEN
Today my eyes were wide open.
And an unfiltered stream of life flowed into my thirsty brain.
I wondered about everything that settled into parched crevasses of my mind.
Like seeing greying pieces of coral light up with colour.
Alive with activity.
Matching this tsunami of stimulation:
Comes noise.
Sounds that settle onto swollen bruised surfaces inside tender ear canals.
Vibrating relentlessly on delicate membrane.
Linking these two normalities of life makes my head hurt.
Then comes the need to say something.
To contribute to life.
I hesitate before continuing boldly.
My contribution.
What will happen to my voice as I respond to life?
I don't know if you follow the Stroke Foundation on Face Book? Lots of good stuff there. Do you read?
Kat has put a blog up about some of the books we found helpful.
My thoughts are with you and you travel this road.
Warm regards
Sue