Why I don't feel 'lucky\

Hi Jennifer

I’m so sorry things have been so hard for you. Thanks for reaching out in EnableMe. There will be many people here reading your words who can relate.

Telling someone they are lucky things aren’t worse is a very natural human response. 

You certainly don’t have to feel lucky. It can helpful to just remember that it is something people say, and not get too caught up in it. Keep talking to people you trust about how you are feeling.

Having a stroke is a scary and exhausting experience. You don’t have much left in the tank, so little things feel like a lot and you get overwhelmed and cry easily.  

You definitely need support for how you are feeling and to make sure you have what you need. Please book in to see your GP. Let them know:

• You’re struggling emotionally. They can ensure you get the treatment and support you need.
• You’re worried about having another stroke. They can let you know what you need to do to lower your risk. Taking action may help you manage your worries and focus on the things you can control.
• You’re worried about looking for work. They can give you a medical certificate for Centrelink.

You may resonate with Stuart’s experience post stroke.

With the right support and treatment, things can get better. Please know that you are not alone. Keep talking to the EnableMe community. In the new year, think about joining a support group where you can connect with people who really get it. Our StrokeLine service can point you in the right direction.

Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 13 11 14. www.lifeline.org.au. You can also chat to them on their website or text them on 0477 13 11 14.

Resources

Emotions and personality changes

Depression and Anxiety

Emotions Resource EnableMe  

You can contact us on 1800 787 653 or email strokeline@strokefoundation.org.au. We are available until 22 Dec 2021, reopening on 6 Jan 2022. We would be very pleased to talk things through with you if you feel it might help.

Be kind to yourself and get in to see your GP.

With kind regards,

Jude, StrokeLine

Hi Jennifer, my partner had a major stoke and survived. His rehab doctor told him how lucky he was to survive - but he doesn't feel lucky either. Depression had him in tears over everything and he is very scared he will have another stroke. His medication has been increased and this has helped him, but we both feel very alone and isolated even though we have each other. Talking about everything does help and I am sorry you are alone. Find out if there is a stroke group in your area or chat with people on this website. Don't give up hope - find beauty in the little things we have around us that make you smile. Merry christmas and best wishes on your recovery.