Monday July 6th 2020... 12 months on and it still felt like it happened yesterday!
Aged just 33, I had suffered an ischaemic stroke (clot), which landed in the occipital lobe (vision) leaving me with a Right Homonyms Hemenopia (peripheral vision).
Here is where my "Altered self" emerged... Being stripped of so much, so quickly and learning new limitations was just so foreign to me! I had no choice but to ride a very uncertain and rocky roller coaster ride of emotions, with no guarantee of light at the end.
Tough Lockdown restrictions, home schooling 3 children, caring for our 6 month old and the regular day-to-day jobs around the house, all came ahead of my recovery. I had to hit the pause button on everything until it all came crashing down on top of me again! Reality sunk in and it felt like I was back at square 1.
Along the way I had to learn harsh truths about myself and the people around me, acceptance for my new "Altered self" was definitely not 100% guaranteed! Another roller coaster ride of Emotions with learning to let go of those who were absent, perhaps unable to deal with change!
Learning to just focus on yourself, after spending your life always focusing on others was difficult and often, at times, felt selfish.
Living with an invisible "disability" is incredibly frustrating and a challenge within itself. Sometimes I think about creating my own personalised clothing saying "I'm vision impaired, please be patient"!
It's the simple things in life we often crave the most; the stranger down the street greeting you with a smile and a "Good morning"; the shop assistant that comments on how well behaved your children are; the family member that sends you a message of love and asks how you are. We re-learn who is genuine in our lives and THAT is what's most important during such a crucial part of your ongoing recovery, surrounding yourself with those who love and support you NO MATTER WHAT!
Every day is very much different from the last, I try my absolute hardest, I stay as positive as I can, I continue to learn my limits and triggers and deal with them in a productive way. Above all else, I remain unapologetic about my "Altered self" because deep down my heart and soul has, and always will remain un-altered!
