Hi Melita,
I will give the explaining a go, it's a bunch of random thoughts about what this word means to me and why I look for alternatives to the word goal. Like Intention, or making something my priority. or something I am working towards.
For me the word goal brings up the thought in my head of trying to shoot a goal. Like in sport.
There is either a goal or not a goal after the ball has been thrown or kicked.And a whole team is waiting expectantly on a goal or not.
The pressure I also relate back to when I really found it hard to communicate and I was being asked what my goals were. I was very very sad about life at the time and my emotional state was not being given any support nor could I find someone to trust with my past. My days were all about physical work.
So the word goal for this reason doesn't work for me. It leaves me feeling, inadequate or that there is a possibility that I am going to miss the goal or that by even having a goal I am ignoring all the other wonderful opportunities there are to discover something along they way.
Where as if I replace the word with intention or priority or even use the phrase something I am working towards I feel I have a lot more room to explore, move, be curious about what it is I am wanting to achieve and I am more likely to put energy into discovering answers to my questions along the way and feel ownership over my intention.
I feel excited at the prospect of learning something along the way by looking at my desires like this. For me it's more of a continuum of thoughts rather than ticking boxes of a list.
And this is what works for me. I have friends who are very list driven and that works for them, which is great.
Working out what gets us going is a start!
I hope my ramblings make some sense:-)
Sue
