When I was working very hard in recovery....

Nina Wilde
Nina Wildeon Thursday, June 1 2017
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Hi everyone

 

I look at posts and how sometimes we survivors doubt and second guess ourselves at times.

 

A short message on the irony I found during recovery about maybe at times when I was emotional - laughing or crying, or frustrated that I would laugh and cry at the same time.

 

When going about my business of recovering and aware that I need to improve the laughing and crying which were causing me some distress, I watched others interact, I watched others while out and about swear at each other, fight, yell, interrupt,be rude, be dissmissive - and then I watched genuine concern, manners, people listening, laughter, smiles, warm gestures and body language.

 

I watched all these styles of communication as I began to learn to walk and talk again.  And I chose to communicate with respect and integrity. I still may have displayed sadness and confusion at times. I have learn't so much from being unable to communicate as an adult and being dependent on others for care.  

 

Just wondering what other people have  noticed and would like to share?

 

Sue

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Marcus

Sue, 

 

After my stroke, I didn't feel angry, sad or life has given my bum ride. That all came back later. I was trying to deal with the notion that the stroke has taken my ability to talk to my wife and sons and to work as a teacher. I knew that I had to get through this if I am to survive and provide for my family. 

 

During my rehab, at home and while trying to work, I realised I was missing something - laughter, jokes, banter while riding ... I am still trying to be more 'happy' and 'sad' but in a more positive way. This is still hard, but I am working on using all types of communications styles. 

 

Marcus

 

Nina Wilde avatar
Nina Wilde

I get that Marcus - I know when words were put into my mouth about maybe I was thinking   "why me" when medical profession were trying to get a gauge on my thinking later down the track.  This only confused me more as I thought to myself "well why not me?" what would make me not susceptible to the life events which shake our souls.

The drive for peace within this event in our lives has been my companion throughout time.

Sue

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