Feeling guilt and shame

Here are some comments for Belle from the Facebook community.

Jessica D'Lima

Sorry, I have no words of advice for you. But you aren’t alone. My husband struggled with the fatigue too…he feels like he lets the kids down at times because he just gets so tired. But the kids and I still love him and are thankful we still have him- I say we have Version 2.0 of him haha. Look at the small things each day, or half day. Find the positives- they are there, the negatives just appear to us in bold

Pamela Miller

Shame is a negative self evaluation, trust in the people that love and support you. The stroke was something that happened to you, it is not the measure of your worth.

Jess Shannon

Just take it one day at a time and you will slowly start to build up your strength again. It may even take you a little longer as you had several strokes but don’t let it stop you or get you down. Just do the best you can for now because you are still here with your family. If your kids are old enough to understand then maybe have a chat with them on how you feel, but if they aren’t have a chat with your husband, your mum or dad or a close friend whenever you feel down.

Alison Ahrens

After my stroke 8 years ago - I find I am forced to give in to my fatigue a bit. A short daytime nap 40 mins ish is the only tool I have to fight the fatigue. After a few days of naps, I usually feel a bit bette

There is no shame in having a stroke Bella. Unless people have had a stroke, they cannot judge you. Getting fatigued is a grey area for me, but rest is the only way to cure it. I can comprehend the feelings you have about not being able to perform like you used to. But, Hey, I'll bet you still try, and just maybe that may be a little bit to do with fatigue. As far as being ashamed of your body Bella, You are who you are, not the person you think you should be in front of other people. It's your choice Bella. You are the one living your life. So why be ashamed. Not Your Bloody Fault.

Bloody good advice John. 

Not your fault indeed (like me)! It's hard, keep on improving, be grateful for what you have, and try not to complain about what you no longer have. That's what I'm trying to say to myself, and it seems that the people around me admire me for it!