Article: This Turns Tragedy into an Opportunity for Personaly Growth

Hi Marcus

Yes this article does ring true for me. I particularly was drawn to the sentences as follows.

"Such growth isn’t spontaneous. One has to go through the stages of grief in order to get there. No one is advocating for suffering, either. Yet for many, it’s bound to occur at some point."

The amount of times my inner world was an emotional roller coaster while I continued my day to day living, life does not stop moving forward.  I hung on, dug in tight and still continued to live according to our dreams and put myself in situations where I needed to swim not sink.  I didn't swim effortlessly, nor did I sink to the bottom and stay there. I sort of bounced along on the sand floating among the sea creatures!

I read widely for any positive message I could find.  Even when in the depths of grief, I looked for hope.

Thanks for sharing.  

Does this article give you an interest in doing something else other than EnableMe along the lines of support for others? What do you have in mind?

And how is work going?

Sue

Hi Sue, 

Second answer to your question 'How is work going?'  I suppose it is ok, but I don't have any classes and the first term is about to end, so I could say it is great. However, it is hard to get back to the seat. I believe there are 3 types of people after your stroke - the ones who couldn't care, the ones who feel they should say something, but don't really care, or the last group are the people who really to care, want to listen and talk to you over the last 10 months. It might be a short conversation at stairs on the way to the office or their classes, but you can feel that they are concerned about me. 

But, that is life. Now, I am able to let these two groups to go their way, and let me to my way. 

There is a good TED video that explains my 'philosophy' of work, colleagues, and life. Of course, I still continue using meditations and/or mindfulness, but this philosophy seems to work, and I hope it will help me during classes. 

First, questions, I don't know. There are few to none stroke survivor groups in English. I am sure there are groups but this could be a little difficult of me. Just dealing with all the different doctors, is like a type of therapy. 

The Magic of not giving a F***, Sarah Knight,  TEDxCoconutGrove

https://youtu.be/GwRzjFQa_Og

Marcus

Hi Marcus

The talk at the stairs makes sense to me. 

It's nice to know that people are concerned about you and really do want the best for you. And getting itchy to do something purposeful - I get that too.

Energy works both ways.

The video clip you put the link up to - yes I get it.  The energy balance, what takes away, what adds value. 

I did pick up pretty quickly where I needed to put my energies and it wasn't into situations where I was not able to add value. Nor would I put up with disrespect towards me - yes I probably would withdraw in certain situations, however better that than becoming a vulnerable crying mess that nobody around me knew what to do with!

Protecting myself and putting myself out of my comfort zone so I would grow was my balancing act in life for so long. I grew stronger through this.

I have grown so much stronger since discovering EnableMe especially.  And I felt pretty strong beforehand, so that has been an unexpected leap forward.

Keep being you !!

Sue