My Mother and a carer

Rod
Rodon Saturday, October 22 2016
2 Comments

Today was pretty difficult. Yes a few months ago my mother again had anther small stroke, but now she is 85 years old and yes now by her self still living in her house.

I went from Roxby to see my mother but yes she was angry? why? however she has not had any tablets that she takes every day. So I had a look in her bedroom and yes there are quite a few tablets in her draw. So I took them out and also took her scripts and then spoke to mum to take her tablets.

Carer my ex wife is a carer for my mum. I messaged her lunch time but no response. Finally 7 pm she gave a message. But did she answer the question, i.e. has the carer spoke to her doctor, but no answer!

So finally my mum was again better, and yes also my sister after 1pm put the tablets into the holder. So now for the next week again mum should be good.

Carer she has taken money from centrelink and she really is lazy and doesn't like my mother. 

Firstly I will ask the doctor and yes I will assist him, then we need to buy the holder from the chemist so my mother is hopefully getting better.Also my youngest son will also see her almost every day just to see that mum is o/k.

The carer washed my mothers carpets and guess what the carer put dust onto the carpet. But yes the two older dogs that my mum has was real sick, so again the carer helped the dogs are sick, why?

This carer is not very good.

I am back in Roxby and hopefully my mum will be better hopefully every day!

2 Responses
Carol Simpson avatar
Carol Simpson

Firstly, how on earth did your ex wife become carer for your mother without your consent? Secondly, who has power of attorney for your mother's well being? Does your mother own her home?

You seem to be angry at your ex wife rather than removing her from the situation. Why would you allow someone to care for your mother if the carer doesn't like her? You and other members of your family need to shoulder some of this responsibility as well.

You need to take back control out of your ex wife's hands and do what is right for your mother. If I was in your situation I'd either arrange for myself and other close family members to rotate staying with her in her house or her staying with you and other family members on a rotating basis.

The other alternative which would be the last resort would be a nursing home. 

 

Hope you do the right thing. Carol

 

Rod avatar
Rod

Hi Carol

Thanks for your response.

Life now has changed. Last year we separated, then phone call when I was trying to sell my house and my ex wife was angry all the time.

So my ex wife was staying in my mum's house but she now has a rented house, funny that she now lives near her middle son, he was on drugs in jail, but maybe he is o/k, and also she now nears my first wife. Funny that both are virgos and yes both tell lies.

Now last year my ex wife asked as a carer, the only person agreed was my mum.

Nobody asked as a power of attorney, now I am not angry, just frustrated. Really I need to loaded another carer, but I don't know. Yes my mum generally doesn't like my ex wife, as a carer.

My eldest sister looked at my mum saturday and sunday, funny that my ex wife has gone again. My eldest sister almost mentioned that Dom Care will have a look at mum, but nobody has told me.

So I really don't know?

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