What's the worst thing a person can say or ask someone recovering?

The worst is "You look alright to me"

Frank, yes!!

It's hard for people to understand invisible disabilities.

Have you listed to the podcast about it? It's called hidden disabilities.

Stuart has also written a blog about his experience.

And Katrina has written about the stigma that be attached to invisible illness.

The worst thing I heard was when I was trying to explain to my manager that due to my short-term memory issues, I struggle with finding/using the Bank's systems. I asked for training - simple? His responses were:

1) look for on-line training as you know best what you struggle with, and

2) your doctors certified that you are fit for work and I treat you like everyone else...

Not to mention that he used my short-term memory issues against me, rather trying to speak to me and try to understand.

However, the pressure to perform in large organisations is extreme (e.g. banks), so Line Managers can't afford spending time or helping someone like myself. They have to perform as well - they have constant pressure from the top! Vicious circle... 

On that note, in addition to my doctors, nurses and rehab staff, the best piece of advice (help) I received was from a lawyer who advised me to explore potential benefits through my Super.

Hey Michael,

Thanks for this post. I would like to share it with Duncan, who has had poor support from his employer too.

Do you have any extra pointers on what to explore in Super?

Hi Diana, re Super, it is important to explore if one has TPD cover or not. If yes, contact your Super and ask for relevant form, which has to be filled out by two doctors (GP and Neurosurgeon in my case). Once that is done, send the form back to your Super fund and wait for a response. Alternative is Centrelink, but they do an Asset Test, so the more assets one has, the less support one gets. Hope this helps

Further to Super, benefit is paid out into one's Super account and they tell you what part is 'Defined' benefit and what not. The type of benefit is regulated by how much tax one has to pay in conjunction with one's age. It is a complex area, so best to seek appropriate advice. Can be complex for us stroke survivors,  in particular if one has a cognitive disability. Always take good care.